Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, love, and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark.
the best rings are the ones that mean something. the silver on these rings rub off after time, and reveals the 18 karat gold ring beneath the silver. the point of the ring is to show that the longer love lasts, the more powerful and beautiful it is.
I love you also means I love you more than anyone loves you, or has loved you, or will love you, and also, I love you in a way that no one loves you, or has loved you, or will love you, and also, I love you in a way that I love no one else, and never have loved anyone else, and never will love anyone else.
American culture says, fall in love, let it ravish you and anything short of that hurricane isn’t love. Our culture shouts for us to make the plunge into the deep end. Perhaps that works for some couples—the 50 percent who don’t divorce. Most of our knowledge of love comes from the movie screen, a man and a woman with magnetic attraction to each other that consumes their thoughts and actions and lusts. My love toward my wife didn’t feel like that when we dated, and it created confusion inside of me over my intentions toward her. I wondered if this lack of Hollywood intensity meant I didn’t love her, but the more I thought and read about love, and looked at couples who had endured life together—marriages that go a lifetime—I understood love to be both an emotion and a decision.
Many of us are waiting to be blindsided by a tsunami of love, when maybe we should just wade in for a sweet swim. What I’m trying to say is we should marry a friend. Romance may birth a friendship, and that’s OK, but we better make sure we marry the person we like to talk to, because marriage isn’t an unending series of orgasms. Marriage is an unending series of conversations.
I think at the core of who we are, we all crave the very same thing. And I think it goes beyond happiness, or success, or knowledge, or even meaning. From the beggar to the king, from the famous to the faceless. Everybody needs love.
Love is what God is, love is why Jesus came, and love is why he continues to come, year after year to person after person.
May you experience this vast, expansive, infinite, indestructible love that has been yours all along. May you discover that this love is as wide as the sky and as small as the cracks in your heart no one else knows about. And may you know, deep in your bones, that love wins.